When I watched Meghan Edmonds and her husband Jim Edmonds at their ultrasound appointment during the most recent episode of Real Housewives of Orange County, my heart was aching for them. They went from being super excited that Meghan was pregnant with twins to being devastated after they found out that only one of the embryos survived. The emotions were raw and I really wanted to leap through the TV screen and give Meghan a hug.
The only (super small) bright side was that the videos actually got to see a compassionate side to Jim’s personality – especially after he has been highly criticized for what comes off like a lack of support during Meghan’s pregnancy journey. It seemed pretty obvious to me that Meghan and Jim were happy to have a baby on the way and that they were just understandably upset that they lost one, but apparently a lot of people have come at her for being “ungrateful” that she has a healthy baby on the way.
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I really don’t think that being upset over the loss of one baby takes away from having another one. It’s actually pretty unfair for people to automatically label Meghan and Jim as ungrateful after watching them receive such sad news with zero time to recover. We saw their reaction the way it happened. People need to stop looking for the negative. There is nothing wrong with being upset about not having a baby.
Meghan defended herself in her Bravo blog: “As expected, everyone has had different views and opinions on how I reacted to the news of just one baby instead of two, but knowing that two genetically perfect embryos were transferred and only one survived was really hard for me. Of course I am beyond excited and grateful for my baby girl to arrive in a couple months, but the loss of (what I now know was) the boy felt – and was and is – so real. People have said that I should be grateful I have one healthy baby and I want everyone to know that I am, but please don’t undermine my pain because I still lost my baby boy, no matter how early.”
I know that Meghan is an easy target for criticism, but it really blows my mind that people actual have the audacity to hate on her for sharing such a personal moment with the viewers.
Meghan is also very aware that she is lucky to be pregnant and be able to afford the treatments, so don’t even start with bashing her for privilege in regard to this story line. Meghan wrote, “And anyone who has undergone IVF knows that our embryos are our babies. And yes, Jimmy and I have had early success with IVF, we are pregnant with a healthy baby, and we can afford the treatments we underwent. We have a lot to be grateful for. But at the end of the day it doesn’t make our loss disappear.”
Rich reality stars have problems too. Just because Meghan and Jimmy are having one baby, it really doesn’t mean that they can’t be sad about the loss.
Meghan also revealed that there’s a softer spot to Jim when she admitted, “I was overwhelmed with emotions and Jim was, too. He was so upset. Even at the next appointment, he asked them to please look again for our other baby – it broke my heart. I’d wake up crying and fall asleep crying and we had to take some time to grieve.”
It’s totally understandable that both Meghan and Jim took time to grieve the loss.
Meghan is happy to have a baby girl on the way. She shared her excitement in her blog, “I’m now seven months pregnant and I’m currently decorating my baby girl’s nursery and couldn’t be more excited to meet her!” Meghan also posted a photo of her daughter’s nursery on Instagram and I’m not gonna lie, I am very jealous of how pretty this baby’s room looks so far. Props to the decorators on this one.
Along with the photo, Meghan wrote, “Yay! The nursery has its wallpaper mural! Love how each little thing makes such a huge difference!” Clearly, she is excited about the impending arrival of her baby girl. People need to lay off – at least in regard to this story.
TELL US – DO YOU THINK MEGHAN & JIM SEEMED UNGRATEFUL WHEN THEY FOUND OUT ONE EMBRYO DIDN’T SURVIVE? DO YOU THINK THEY HAD A NORMAL REACTION TO THE NEWS?
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